Virgo and Aquarius Compatibility

A Virgo woman and an Aquarius man make an unexpected match, one that surprises not only everyone around them but the lovers themselves. Granted, few people would bet on this couple, but long shots pay big! So why not take the chance?

Love and Dating

It's hard to say what a rational Virgo woman could have in common with an Aquarius man who refuses to fit any mold or stay inside any lines. But love isn't rational, and there's no point guessing. Most likely, each finds in the other what they lack themselves. Virgo tries to learn from Aquarius how to flit through life like a butterfly, while he values her knack for organizing herself and her ability to set a goal and keep going until she reaches it. These two can spend a long time absorbed in studying each other, as if the other had just landed from another planet, and that fascination is what holds them together.

Sexual Compatibility

Intimacy between a Virgo woman and an Aquarius man is sometimes far from ideal. His spontaneity frightens her, especially at first, while he's irritated by her quirks, like the mandatory shower beforehand and the almost ceremonial way she makes up the bed of love. Quite often, by the time Virgo is ready, Aquarius's fighting spirit has fizzled out. Things improve when they talk frankly: sharing their fantasies and saying out loud what bothers them about each other.

Relationships and Family

Surely you've overheard at least one conversation in which a woman lectures her companion: "Look, you worked all night, didn't get any sleep, showed up late, and got an earful from your boss! And nobody even appreciated how hard you worked! Honey, nobody needs your heroics!" That's exactly how a loving Virgo woman reins in her fiery, untamed Aquarius and brings him back down to earth. And although appealing to an Aquarius's common sense is often useless, he's grateful to his partner for loving him and looking out for him.

Life together isn't always easy for a Virgo woman and an Aquarius man, two people this different. She lives by clear rules; his main rule is that there are no rules. She tries to reform him, and he sometimes acts like a child, doing everything just to spite her. Aquarius doesn't much care about putting down roots. He'd happily spend his whole life rolling around the world like a tumbleweed, while Virgo can't do without a dependable home and a perfect family.

The only thing that can save this marriage is giving up, completely, on trying to remake the other person to suit yourself. The relationship can work if Virgo recognizes that her partner is a talent, someone special and remarkable. Then she takes on the role of his guardian, chalking up all his recklessness to the impulses of a creative nature, while Aquarius accepts at least some of her rules and tries to follow them. In short, the standard playbook won't save this relationship. So come up with a strategy all your own!

An Aquarius woman and a Virgo man play out the old story of the priest and the sinner. Even if he finds himself drawn to her, he'll do his best to stamp out any warm feeling for a partner so thoroughly wrong for him. She, meanwhile, keeps looking for a chance to slip out of his gloomy company.

Love and Dating

An Aquarius woman and a Virgo man don't see each other as potential lovers, let alone future spouses, so the odds that they'll ever get close are slim.

They disagree about plenty, and few of those differences can be bridged: he can hardly put up with her devil-may-care streak, and she can hardly put up with his nitpicking. Very often these two can't be completely honest with each other. Instead of saying outright what bothers them, they'd rather live in a permanent state of quiet grievance. Still, cold statistics, with nature and fate on their side, have their way in the end, and so couples like this do come along. Rarely, but they do.

Sexual Compatibility

Between the sheets, an Aquarius woman and a Virgo man mean chilly nights and a great deal of misunderstanding, at least at first. For her, love is a flight of imagination; he never switches his brain off for a single minute. In bed she needs intrigue and surprise, while he likes to settle the time, the place and the script in advance.

Getting their intimate life on track will take these two a long road and a lot of rethinking. Not every Virgo–Aquarius couple is up to it. Some will probably decide to leave things as they are and never once talk about what's going wrong in their bedroom.

Relationships and Family

Say you're strolling through town and overhear a man scolding his companion for picking the longest possible route from the store to the bus stop, and she answers, “Yes, it takes longer, but this street has that house with the pretty little turrets!” Chances are good you've just run into a Virgo man and an Aquarius woman. Beside him, she sometimes loses her nerve and goes quiet: his rationalism smothers her creative impulses. Virgo, for his part, struggles to accept that Aquarius's irrationality is a permanent fixture of their life together. But if he does manage it, he starts treating it as one more rule, and in his orderly world everything more or less falls into place…

Sharing a home doesn't come easily to an Aquarius woman and a Virgo man. That's not to say they have nothing in common: both can be quite thrifty, for instance, and both love a good conversation about politics, science and other big questions. Their real problem is that they look at life differently. To the organized Virgo, life is a string of obstacles to overcome and problems to solve; to the carefree Aquarius, it's a carnival parade.

How far is either of them willing to remake themselves, and does either of them even need to? That's for the two of them alone to decide. Neither will come through this marriage unchanged, but people change over time anyway, so why not adjust to each other?